When I was in the depths of anxiety and depression, something that was always at the back of my mind was how was my partner going to react to all this? Would he one day decide that he had had enough, pack his bags and leave me, or would he stick by me and realise how much I needed him.
It's a fear of many people who suffer with some form of mental illness, and potentially this type of worrying can make everything ten times worse, and for me, it made the anxiety more hard to cope with.
I needn't have worried though, because this guy who I was worried would leave me, actually ended up marrying me and he has helped me every step of the way.
However this was not without it's challenges, and on my husband's part, it turned out to be a constant learning experience, not only to become more familiar with anxiety disorders, but to try and deal with me when I was at my worst.
My husband endured a lot during my bad days. In fact I often think he suffered more than I did. With my endless crying fits, suicidal tendencies, terrible mood swings and verbal abuse - I was truly a joy to be around.
In my book 'My Anxiety Companion' my husband has actually written a whole chapter on how to be there for your anxious spouse, but we have come up with these extra handy tips that we both feel will help anyone who is the partner of a person with a mental illness, particularly with anxiety disorders: