This is obviously no fault of anyone, but lack of awareness and knowledge about anxiety disorders and such bad stigma attached to the condition, it can cause a lot of friction between the anxiety sufferer and the non anxiety sufferer.
Here are 13 things that anxiety sufferers desperately need non anxiety sufferers to know...and more importantly, understand
1. Normal everyday things and tasks are harder for us.
Please be patient with us.
2. This is not attention seeking
We cannot snap out of it, and we cannot make the anxious thoughts stop!
3. We are not crazy
4. Just because you can't see it, doesn't mean it's not there
Please don't judge us or make us feel any less important.
5. Keep up with the positivity
Just giving us a hug, reading us a positive quote, or even telling us 20 times a day that we will get through it means more to us than you will ever know.
6. Some situations or places we avoid
On these days, please try to understand that this does not mean that we don't want to hang out with you, it just means we are terrified of that situation sparking off an anxiety attack
7. We cannot leave the hosue sometimes
8. Just be there for us
9. Please don't tell us not to worry
10. We make mountains out of molehills
If something is of a small problem to you, chances are it will be a train wreck to us.
Again instead of telling us to stop being silly and worrying so much, rather help us to see our dramatization in a softer and more caring way.
11. Routines are important to us
12. Our moods can be like a rollercoaster
We get our days when we want to just sleep and don't want to face the world, and we get our days when we are fine.
Please try to accept this and just go with the flow of our moods.
It is nothing to do with you!
13. We cannot help our irrational thoughts
Our irrational fears are very real to us and they terrify us, so much so that it causes us acute anxiety.
These are the times when we really need you to be there for us.
I find that the best help for irrationality is to ask us questions, ask us why we so afraid. Act interested. Often when I was asked by my parents or my husband as to why I was so afraid, the more I spoke about it, the more I could see just how irrational I was being.
If you know someone struggling with an anxiety disorder, please be that person who helps them and makes their life a little bit easier by just being there for them.
For more information on anxiety disorders, please visit www.myanxietycompanion.com
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